- Have you started to feel trapped in your relationship?
- Do you and your partner fight a lot?
- Do you feel uncomfortable in your partners presence?
- Do you dread spending time with your partner?
- Has the love stopped exciting you?
If you’ve answered yes to one or more of these questions, there’s a high possibility you’re in a toxic relationship.
Toxic relationships usually don’t start this way, they happen gradually over time.
Here’s how to recognise a few characteristics of a toxic relationship, and how to get out of one.
Recognising A Toxic Relationship
Constant Criticism And Playing The Blame Game
No one is perfect, and no relationship is either!
However, if the two of you are always criticising each other, or either one of you keeps blaming each other for little things, this is a red flag.
The relationship has stopped being fun and is slowly eating away at both of you.
Disrespect And Lack Of Communication
Another characteristic of a toxic relationship is a communication gap and a lack of respect.
Have you noticed that you and your partner rarely talk anymore, and if you do, it’s usually to exchange taunts or hurtful words? If so, this is toxic relationship behaviour.
When this starts to happen, you may find you look forward to your partners absence more than their presence, as that’s when you can have peace!
Jealousy And Trust Issues
A little bit of jealousy can actually be good within a relationship, as it shows you’re afraid to lose each other.
But when your relationship is defined by jealousy and a lack of trust, you shouldn’t be together.
You Don’t Like Yourself Anymore
This is a very common sign of being in a toxic relationship and is usually brought on by a partner who keeps putting you down and killing your confidence.
You no longer find pride in how you look as a toxic partner infects you with their anxiety and insecurities.
If you have a constant feeling of suffocation, you feel uncomfortable or tense around your partners presence, this is your body reacting to the negative energy surrounding you both.
Negativity can drain you physically, mentally and emotionally.
You’re Just Not Happy Anymore
What it really comes down to is you. Your happiness and your peace of mind. You don’t have to justify why you aren’t happy anymore.
Your partner is supposed to be someone who makes you feel supported and capable of achieving your goals and dreams.
It’s simply not realistic to expect to be happy in every moment of your relationship, but as a whole, your partner should help you to feel a happier and better person.
When things in your life fall apart, your partner should be the one to provide you stability.
Your partner is supposed to help you rebuild and give you hope that things will get better.
If you don’t have this… is it really worth it?
Getting Out Of A Toxic Relationship
Unfortunately, it’s not very easy getting out of a toxic relationship, sometimes it can even be dangerous.
However, if you’ve began to recognise that you are in a toxic relationship, you must step out.
Here are a few things that may help.
Realise That You Deserve Better
You may no longer recognise your worth because of the toxic relationship.
You may think things such as; what you have is more than enough, or even how to make adjustments to yourself to make your partner happy.
No. You deserve better. You don’t deserve fights, taunts, insecurities and disrespect.
Learn To Let Go
Sometimes, we get into a relationship and make so many plans, as we believe we can’t love anyone else like we love that person.
This is usually the reason why we hold on for so long, but really, happiness and peace are so much more important.
Stop Waiting For Your Partner To Change
You’ve given your relationship enough time to improve, you’ve given your partner chance after chance, and still the same behaviours are occurring.
Every time you decide to break up, your partner manages to convince you things will be different and they will change, but they never do.
Understand that they never will change and expecting them to is a waste of time.
Be strong and end the relationship.
It’s better to hurt for a short while, than to have to face pain for a lifetime.