Happiness can often seem like a mythical entity to chase. It’s very easy for us to consider it ethereal, not achievable, or just something given to us by grace alone.
However, the daily needs of the happy person aren’t all that complex. They are quite predictable and reliable.
Think of it this way…
Happiness is a butterfly flying around a field, spreading its wings and having a jolly old time.
Imagine trying to chase that butterfly, grabbing it with everything you have.
You could use a massive net, but the mesh would injure it, and even then it might fly outside of the trap when you come to collect.
It will likely fly away from you no matter what you do.
However, if you sit on a bench and view the scenery, noticing the small details and letting its peace absorb you, the butterfly of happiness might just come and rest on your shoulder.
This means that the daily needs of the happy person will not work if they’re not simple, and not altogether focused on happiness. Consider the following:
The satisfied person requires meaning.
Meaning is arguably more important than being happy, because it sustains you, and it isn’t as variable based on your mood.
When you have meaning you have a purpose, a direction, an aim, an ideal to push towards. This helps orient your entire life.
When you have this, the world is a challenge, not an obstacle.
The two perceptions are very different, and you’ll know if you transition from one to another.
As famous psychologist and Holocaust survivor Viktor E. Frankl once said:
Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
This might mean finding meaning in your children, in your work, in your charitable volunteerism.
Meaning comes from many angles.
Finding it could be your best bet for daily happiness.
Every genuinely emotional stable and happy person have one thing in common – they take care of themselves.
Even if disabled or mentally impaired, the happy person has their health still in mind. This might be reducing stress, looking on the bright side, valuing social connections more than anything or getting in daily exercises if possible.
However, sometimes it takes more effort to return to baseline so you can begin taking care of yourself.
This might mean forcing yourself to attend alcohol rehab, or losing that weight that makes you feel unhealthy and terrible each and every day.
Caring for yourself is one of the best things you can do, so find the humble way in which you can do it and give everything to the effort. This helps you feel value in yourself, which is essential to be a happy person.
These two tips might seem overly simple – but happiness is not a complex treasure to be found.
If you find meaning and care for yourself, your days become renewed with vitality.
From here you can focus on your interests, your social connections, your career and maybe even your love life.
However, even if those fail, you will always have these two baseline virtues to keep, and that can sustain you and your happiness for the long-term.